People Need People

Being a mother is truely tough. Being a wife can be rather difficult too. Someone is always needing something, whether it's advice or help in finding shoes or a pair of glasses. Seems like I always know where everything is. It can be overwhelming for me at times when everyone seems to need something all at once. And I can assure you it has happened before. As chaotic as things can get at times, I know that my family wouldn't know what to do without me.

Being able to contribute to the well-being of others is a necessity to being human. And being needed also gives us a sense of belonging that is important to satisifyling our life. We all need to feel love and accepted by others. If we provide those feelings to others, then we are fulfilling the sense of belonging. When your there for somebody, whether it be emotional, spiritually or just lending an ear, you are proving to them that you love them-that you care.

Being needed is also another necessity to all. We as women tend to cope with lifes daily stressors by taking care of others-because when we know that someone needs us, it gives us the ability to relieve some stress by helping and tending to the needs of others-therefore-we are needed. Of course, being needed by too many people at once can create more stress instead helping it...that must be one of my problems-too many people at one time needs things. Sometimes we need to learn to say no or do it yourself. My probelm is that I don't know how to say no. I have a very soft heart, yet I am working on learning how to say no, because I end up running myself ragged by adding other responsibilities to my daily agendas and the extra responsibility doesn't always benefit me. Advice would be to finish what your doing before agreeing to anything else so you won't feel so overwhelmed.

I read an article about all this and it all makes so much sense. ALOT of it is me. I take care of so many people on a daily basis, not just my children, husband and pets, but also the folks at the nursing home. To think of everybody who relies on me everyday is overwhelming....I need a vacation. But I wouldn't have it any other way either.